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Royal insider Anne Glenconner: ‘I’m not afraid of something’

If Anne Glenconner had been born a boy, she’d personal the pub that we’re assembly in, the encompassing property of Holkham, the fifth-largest in England, and the title of the Earl of Leicester. As a substitute, all she acquired from Holkham was a 3rd of a set of china.

“My father was old-school: girls received nothing. We didn’t depend, actually.” It wasn’t the final time Woman Glenconner can be denied. When her husband Colin Tennant died in 2010, she discovered he’d left his land on the Caribbean island of Mustique, which they’d made right into a celebrity-strewn bohemia, to his valet. “It was a humiliation.”

This has been the sample of Glenconner’s life: at delivery, she disillusioned males; ever since, they’ve disillusioned her. So she compensated. She spent three many years as lady-in-waiting to Princess Margaret. In her late eighties, she has excelled as an writer, writing a riveting memoir and two page-turner novels.

I’d apprehensive that Glenconner, now 89, can be a frail interviewee. I thereby be part of the checklist of males who’ve underestimated her. She leads me from our designated desk close to different diners to an empty eating room behind a curtain. “Do you assume I may order a glass of white wine, please? Sauvignon Blanc, medium,” she tells the waitress the second we sit down. Seventy-one years after Tatler named her debutante of the 12 months, the poise stays. She sits reverse me with a glossy bob, pearl drop earrings and an extended purple scarf. She has no doubts about her personal stamina, however a couple of about my voice recorder’s. “I do rabbit away, so I hope the batteries are going to face up.”

She canters by means of anecdotes: warfare, males, monarchy. I knew she’d outdo me on etiquette — however on power? “You simply press my button and off I’m going. No bother interviewing me. Though I’ve received to watch out. They mentioned don’t drink an excessive amount of.”

Subsequent 12 months Britain celebrates the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee. However the monarchy is unsteady. Prince Philip died in April; the Queen has been unwell. Prince Charles’s charity donors are underneath scrutiny. Harry and Meghan have left for America. Andrew has not, as a result of he faces a civil trial there for alleged sexual abuse. In the meantime, aristocratic privilege jars with the age of range schemes.

Glenconner is extra articulate concerning the high of the British class system than the royals themselves. Her life has been an train within the query “why me?” Her fortunes have been excessive; so have her misfortunes. She was a maid of honour on the coronation. However her eldest son, Charlie, was a heroin addict. Her second son, Henry, was identified with HIV shortly after popping out as homosexual. Earlier than they died, her third son, Christopher, had a motorcycle accident, spending 4 months in a coma.

Throughout lunch, extra darkness emerges. However her temper is mild. Since Margaret’s dying in 2002 and Colin’s in 2010, Glenconner has blossomed. “I’ve been within the shadow all my life. I’ve at all times been someone attempting to make it OK for different folks. Instantly, yippee, I got here out with a bang!”

Queen Elizabeth together with her maids of honour on her coronation day in June 1953. Glenconner is pictured third from the left © The Print Collector/Getty Photographs

Her 2019 memoir Woman in Ready has bought greater than half one million copies. “I’m a homosexual icon in America! I’ve a number of letters. I’m a kind of agony writer. Younger homosexual males who discover it tough to inform their mother and father . . . I say fairly orrf-ten the mother and father know.”

What my recorder can’t seize are the eye-rolls, the pulled faces, for topics she deems beneath her — together with her husband. “Colin can be so jealous of me. He was banging on about his memoir for years. There was no query of me ever pondering of writing something.”

I’d deliberate to ask Glenconner about assisted dying. As a substitute I realise that our theme is unassisted residing. “I warned Charlie about medicine, I warned Henry about homosexual folks taking safety, I warned Christopher to not have a motorcycle . . . Now I’m by myself, no males, besides you, giving me lunch. It’s not that I don’t like males! However ones which are close to to 1 are completely maddening.”


Glenconner orders sardines — “my favorite”. I select lentil moussaka. Exterior, pink-footed geese and RAF planes fly in formation. Holkham is rewilding. “I hate rewild . . . oh, I mustn’t say that. I attempted rewilding a few of my backyard. All I received was nettles and brambles.”

She portrays the aristocracy as “custodians” of Britain’s nice estates, burdened by fear for them. Her youth at Holkham was not that jolly. Her father was traumatised by his time in a foxhole in El Alamein. “My mum mentioned, ‘You mustn’t thoughts.’” At boarding faculty, Glenconner was “at all times hungry” and “freezing chilly . . . I can really feel it now.”

One suitor minimize Glenconner off, fearing that her household had “mad blood”, on account of distant relations in a psychological hospital. Alongside got here Tennant, a extra lowly aristocrat, filled with charisma. She married him when she was 23. On the second evening of their honeymoon, he took her to a Parisian brothel to observe a pair have intercourse. In later years, he’d complain to her about his mistresses. In her memoir, and in interviews since, Glenconner has described Colin as having a “mood”. Obituaries described him as an “eccentric”. The reality is extra chilling.

She signifies her left ear. “I can’t hear in any respect in that ear. I didn’t write about what Colin did to me. It was too tough for the youngsters.” She has Christopher and twin daughters; they thought her e book was “very beneficiant” to their father. Colin beat her? “Oh God. He beat me up with sticks. And I can’t hear.”

The horror is incongruous with our genteel setting, her sardines delicately organized, my moussaka just a little sizzling. I need to ask extra. However with a courtier’s firmness, Glenconner sweeps ahead: “Anyway, there we’re.” Like an incoming tide revealing a shell on the seaside, she provides a glimpse, then rolls on.

We return to the subject. “I bear in mind as soon as a health care provider telling me that it was as if [Colin] had one pores and skin too few. Sitting right here with Colin, whether or not it will be one thing making a noise, or if we have been ready right here too lengthy . . . ” She mimics an explosion.

Anne Glenconner together with her husband Colin Tennant on the Caribbean island of Mustique in March 1973 © Slim Aarons/Getty Photographs

She insists that he was “great in a number of methods . . . If he was right here, he’d be intelligent, humorous. Having being introduced up at Holkham with all my father’s taking pictures buddies, I’d by no means met anybody like that. Fully seduced me.” He was “completely great” with Christopher, after the latter’s bike accident, as a result of he “felt he wasn’t a menace to him”.

Colin was not the primary individual to abuse Glenconner. When she was a baby in the course of the warfare, she was despatched with out her mother and father to Scotland for 3 years. For a 12 months, a governess referred to as Miss Bonner tied her fingers to the bedpost at evening. “It was appalling. I nonetheless get up generally like this” — she holds her fingers behind her head. “You both survive otherwise you don’t. I maybe thankfully have survived. However these days folks complain about not having pigs in blankets for Christmas. They complain about something!”

Glenconner wrongly assumed that her mom knew about Miss Bonner’s abuse. “I attempted to speak to her about it, and he or she mentioned, ‘Oh, darling, issues occurred within the warfare.’ That was it.” However her mom positively knew about Colin’s violence. “My mom, a couple of times when he was notably abusive to me, did say, ‘It’s your final likelihood.’ However Colin was terribly thrilling.” We’re off the sleek asphalt of reminiscence lane, into the thorny thickets. I’m sorry, I say. “However anyway.” She pauses. “That occurred rather a lot, I believe.”

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It was Princess Margaret, contemporary from her separation from Lord Snowdon, who gave Glenconner a counterbalance. Boarding a flight again from the US, a raging Colin was dragged from the aircraft. Margaret merely “pulled down the blind so I couldn’t see him, and mentioned, ‘I believe we’ll in all probability want a drink.’ And we didn’t see him for 4 days.”

In Glenconner’s second novel, A Haunting at Holkham, a personality feedback that the aristocracy “spends a number of time pretending to not discover issues”. “Completely true. When [Colin] got here again after 4 days, nothing was mentioned.” Colin was banned from BA. “Fortunately Virgin was simply getting going.”

Learn in a technique, her books reveal the silliness of England’s higher lessons: neglectful mother and father, semi-arranged marriages and fixed affairs. Individuals who excel in complicated etiquette however wrestle with easy ethics. Glenconner describes infidelity as “an aristocratic curse”. “We simply take it with no consideration. My father used to choose up women on the practice going from right here to London. My mom mentioned, ‘I don’t thoughts concerning the women coming as much as lunch, however I’m left with their husbands, who’re so boring’ . . . One minds. I minded about Colin. However you’re employed spherical it. The factor is, we didn’t get divorced.

“One knew that males have affairs. And if it will get too dangerous, then one has one oneself. ” She had her personal “expensive pal”, with whom she shared a weekly lunch and the odd “great weekend”. “[Staying with Colin] was for the youngsters. It’s fairly a grown-up technique to behave. You shouldn’t have kids in the event you’re not ready to sacrifice quite a bit for them.”

She tells the story of 1 lady who left her aristocratic husband as a result of she didn’t need to dwell in his stately house. “She mentioned, ‘I’ve develop into a socialist, I don’t imagine in massive homes.’ I mentioned, ‘Nicely, I want you’d considered that earlier than you married him.’ I imply, it’s hopeless.”

All this explains her damage at Colin’s will, though a decide later awarded Glenconner’s grandson a few of the fortune. “That was The Absolute Finish, as a result of it damage the youngsters a lot.”


Princess Margaret is generally remembered as impolite and rudderless. To Glenconner, the Queen’s sister was a loyal, upbeat pal, and “great” when her son Henry was unwell with Aids. In Antony Armstrong-Jones, the photographer Lord Snowdon, she selected a husband arguably even worse than Colin. “Considered one of his mistresses had a child by him on his honeymoon! . . . Colin had these rages and it was throughout. Tony was calculating, he was imply and horrible.” Did Margaret have a cheerful life? “I believe there have been very darkish moments.”

Glenconner, second from left, waits on the jetty with Princess Margaret forward of the arrival of the Queen in Mustique in 1977 © Anwar Hussein/Getty Photographs

I ask if royal life is boring, not glamorous. “Nicely, I’m not going to speak in any size about Meghan, however that’s precisely a part of the difficulty. No, it’s not glamorous, it’s not using round in a coach.”

Is there any reality to Harry’s declare that his household are “trapped”? “No. I believe Prince Harry, sadly, it was all to do with Princess Diana’s dying.” Prince Charles is “an amazing pal”, who’ll make a “good king”. He’ll need to stability his beliefs with constitutional neutrality, I say. “He’s going to search out it fairly tough,” she smiles. “He realises, clearly, once you’re king or queen, a number of your opinions have to stay inside you.” Charles desires a smaller royal household, which leaves Andrew as “clearly an issue”. Some minor royals could also be wanted for public duties, however not Andrew. “He’s had it.”

The Queen’s age is unstated. “There’s going to be essentially the most monumental outpouring. I don’t know if grief precisely is the proper phrase — I’d love to decide on a pudding — it’ll be fairly extraordinary.” I recommend the Queen has earned a retirement. “She doesn’t need to retire, actually. No, no.” I learn her the puddings. “I’m not going to have Lord Leicester’s smelly cheeses!”

Will the monarchy nonetheless be right here in the same type in 50 years? “How can we are saying? It may be. It relies upon a lot on Prince Charles, Prince William. It’s what folks need as a substitute. They don’t need Mr Trump or one thing like that. I believe when folks have a look at that, they’ll go, ‘Assist! Assist! We’ll persist with our royal household.’”

The waitress asks for our orders. Glenconner and I are affronted. “We have now ordered pudding,” she says. “No, possibly we haven’t!” We realise our wine has taken impact. “We’re clearly having fairly a profitable time!” I order poached pears, Glenconner fancies chocolate cheesecake.

She attributes her resilience to the warfare. When Christopher was in a coma, she additionally had an Anglican awakening. “It was like champagne being pumped by means of you. Extraordinary . . . On the finish of it, I simply felt, ‘I can cope.’” Christopher can now stroll, however not work. “He at all times says, ‘Mum, it’s a lot worse for you. I wouldn’t change my life in any respect. I’ve met completely different folks.’”

Two hours into our lunch, Glenconner says she discovered it “fairly tough” when Henry got here out. In the end, her humanity overtook her prejudice. “One learns rather a lot. I imply, that is simply my tackle life.”

She sums up: “Males in my life haven’t come out too nicely.” An exception is Mick Jagger, who performs cricket with the locals on Mustique and has donated to the varsity there. “I mentioned to Mick, ‘You’re the one man who comes out nicely in my e book on Mustique.’ He mentioned, ‘That’s the very first time anyone’s mentioned that!’”

Glenconner appears unhappy that her dessert isn’t extra chocolatey. We order espresso. When she mishears the waitress, she blames her poor listening to on previous age.

She says that those that lived by means of the warfare spoiled their kids: “Possibly all of us made a mistake, attempting to make all of it great.” For as soon as, she’s unpersuasive. In reality, she repeated a few of her mother and father’ flaws. When her kids have been younger, she was a distant determine. Reflecting, she concedes she “wouldn’t ship ladies to boarding faculty”.

I return to Colin. Would she have appreciated somebody to have sorted him out? “In all probability. However then it was a horrible combination of feeling so sorry for him. To behave like that’s so unhappy, truly. I felt very unhappy for him in a approach. Generally he was so unhappy afterwards. He did apologize.” She speaks with sorrow, then exhales with understatement. “However I believe he may have achieved just a little bit extra, truly. As a result of he was very horrifying. Very, very horrifying.”

Did she ever snap again at him? “There have been moments when one had had a bit to drink after dinner and out of the blue didn’t need to have any extra. However on the entire, I attempted to not. It didn’t assist a lot.” Was remedy by no means an possibility? I ask, however she strikes on. “There we’re. However what he’s achieved is that I’m having such an incredible time. As a result of I’m not afraid of something.”

“I believe this desk’s been excellent,” she says, as I draw again the curtain. “It could’ve been terrible on the market. We wouldn’t have been capable of say something in any respect. We wanted to be alone. I’m going to return right here with the Duchess of Cornwall on Friday.”

The invoice comes with a employees low cost — Glenconner’s comfort, I suppose, for not inheriting the place. I’m going to shake her hand goodbye, however she provides an embrace, and I ponder if it’s one kiss or two. We’re not so divided by class, technology and gender; we’re simply two tipsy souls scuffling with our Englishness. Glenconner has a novel variant of previous age. Might it show contagious.

Henry Mance is the FT’s chief options author

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